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Whips for BDSM - Actuality

A sex whip or other impact toy—that is, a toy that hits your body with some level of force—can be “a symbol of power, control, and heightened sensation” and “ultimately leads to the feeling of surrender,” says dominatrix and kink educator Lady Euphoria. “The sting of a whip is often a feeling that resonates deeper than many other sensations.” They can be paired with other types of bondage gear, like blindfolds and bondage restraints, if you want to up the ante.


But first: If you're looking to buy a BDSM whip, you might consider whether you care more about the appearance (for the purpose of role playing) or the sensation it will deliver. “Novelty whips are usually built with less forethought and are intended for more theatrics instead of impact,” explains Lady Euphoria. Utility whips, on the other hand, tend to be more powerful and shouldn't be used by the inexperienced.



For beginners, it may be better to use a gentler impact toy, like a flogger, rather than a whip. “You can train yourself to understand how to maneuver those tools before moving onto whips,” says Lady Euphoria. To learn how to use whips, in particular, she recommends classes by Kink Academy, Bullwhip.org, The Kink Hub, or Wicked Grounds.


Whatever type of impact-based adult sex toys you get, it's worth it to invest in a high-quality one. “Most quality floggers are $85 and up,” says dominatrix and BDSM consultant Mistress Justine Cross. “That being said, if you take care of your toys, they will literally last you decades.” (So consider real and faux leather, or “PU leather,” which is short for polyurethane.)


Before using a bondage whip or any other BDSM sex toy for the first time, be it nipple clamps or a spanking paddle, it's important to discuss what you're going to do in advance and make sure you and your partner(s) understand each other's boundaries, says Cross. She created a kink negotiation worksheet that gives people prompts for what to discuss before BDSM play.


If you're looking for the best sex whips—or perhaps something milder—to incorporate into your sex life, here are some expert-recommended products to consider.



Blush Noir Soft Feather Sensation Play Tickler

If you're sensitive and prefer a lighter touch, a feather tickler will be more than enough to ignite your senses and add variety to your sex life. This 15-inch tool has an easy-to-grip handle that lets you or your partner tease and tickle your skin with an ultra-soft feather.


Sportsheets Saffron Braided Flogger

Not for beginners, this braided flogger has tips similar to those on a riding crop for added snap upon landing. The bubbled handle makes it easy to grip no matter how slippery things get, and the resulting sting can take less intense impact play to the next level.


Firebird Leather Black and Gold Finger Floggers

“If you want something really special, check out Firebird leather, which is WOC-owned,” says Cross. These beautiful leather flogger whips are made of shimmery gold and black suede and resemble giant tassels; their medium weight can produce a sensation that's strong without being overwhelming. They come as a pair and are called finger floggers because the handles fit around your fingers, which may be the most comfortable option for those with wrist or shoulder pain.


Adam & Eve Scarlet Couture Beat Me Please Whip

With 14-inch faux-leather strips, this is a lighter-weight flogger that can vary in intensity depending on how you use it (a slower slap makes it gentler on your partner, while a quick flick of the wrist adds some sting to it). The woven handle ensures a firm grip too.


Mercy Whips Custom-Made Single Tail Whip

“These whips are made of nylon, well-made, easy to travel, and easy to clean,” says Lady Euphoria, adding that they're gentle enough for beginners. Most important, each whip is hand-made and customizable: You can choose the length—ranging from two to five feet—as well as the color. They each have a stainless steel and lead core for weight, and you can add additional weight if you wish for more intense flogging.


Whips by Axel Utility Signature Whip

Axel Utility whips "are made with leather, well-built, come in different types and weights, and are great for those looking to build a skillset,” says Lady Euphoria. High-quality but affordable, this leather whip—which she recommends for intermediate users—is on the short side and comes in five different colors.


Bondage Boutique Wide Leather Riding Crop Whip

Riding crops are appealing to some because of the swoosh they make in the air and the mild-to-firm slap they can deliver to someone's body, though they also shouldn't be used without practice or instruction. This leather riding crop has an ergonomic rubber handle, handy wrist strap, and is 27 inches long, letting you use it at a slight distance or up close.


Dragontailz

Dragontails are good for beginners because they land with more of a thud than a sting, says Lady Euphoria: “These pack the punch with more margin for error.” This one's got a polypropylene handle (as opposed to the kangaroo leather handles of Dragontailz's other toys) and comes in limited colors to keep the cost down, but it's still made of high-quality leather and even comes with a DVD to teach you how to use it.


Victor Tella Bullwhip

A bullwhip is a single-tailed whip made with a braided leather plait, and this bullwhip is designed for exactitude and force, with a 12-inch steer-core handle. “These are made with leather, well constructed, and meant to last a lifetime,” says Lady Euphoria. However, they're very strong and should be reserved for experienced users.


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